I have another book here by Rudy Simone 22 Things a woman must know if she loves a man with Asperger's syndrome. I plan on giving the book to my mum. Some of the things are
- you will be lonely
- he won't listen to you very often
- expect to be spoken over top of
- your man may not be there for you in a crisis
- you will never change him even if you do change his behaviour
- your AS male won't care much about anything you do apart from him
And so it goes. All traits that I can see in my dad. He's 85, and they've stayed married for 60 years next year. Good on her for putting up with his shit for that long. She's a patient, loving wife, for sure.
Patience is such a necessary tool for marriage I find. Patience, kindness and a tolerance for the other. Acceptance that they will never be perfect, and neither will you. Perfectionism is one of the marriage killers I believe. This mistaken knowledge that if I'm perfect he should be too.
The fact that a great many people believe something is no guarantee of its truth. W. Somerset Maugham
- you will be lonely
- he won't listen to you very often
- expect to be spoken over top of
- your man may not be there for you in a crisis
- you will never change him even if you do change his behaviour
- your AS male won't care much about anything you do apart from him
And so it goes. All traits that I can see in my dad. He's 85, and they've stayed married for 60 years next year. Good on her for putting up with his shit for that long. She's a patient, loving wife, for sure.
Patience is such a necessary tool for marriage I find. Patience, kindness and a tolerance for the other. Acceptance that they will never be perfect, and neither will you. Perfectionism is one of the marriage killers I believe. This mistaken knowledge that if I'm perfect he should be too.
The fact that a great many people believe something is no guarantee of its truth. W. Somerset Maugham
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